Before diving into what we call a ‘Love App‘ or a ‘Dating App‘, let us chant the name of the biggest devotee of love – ‘Har Har Mahadev‘
Swipe Right, Swipe Left Or Just Swipe Away?
In a world where love is just a tap away, dating apps like Hinge promise deep connections, real conversations, and something more than a casual fling. But is that really what’s happening? Or are we just swiping through illusions, chasing the idea of love rather than love itself?
The ‘Designed to Be Deleted’ Paradox
Hinge markets itself as the app that helps you find something real—yet the cycle of ghosting, unmatched conversations, and endless “situationships” tells a different story. If it’s meant to be deleted, why does it feel like a revolving door?
The Rise of ‘Situationships’ Over Commitment
People want deep conversations, but not deep responsibility. “I’m not looking for anything serious, but let’s see where this goes” has become the anthem of modern dating. Is this emotional evolution, or just fear of intimacy disguised as freedom?
DO NOT LOOK AWAY
Live Lens: Dare to Seek the Truth?
People will get offended, because truth is often bitter and this bitter truth will make your life sweet once you start accepting it.
Choice Overload: Too Many Options, No Real Decisions
With endless profiles at our fingertips, we’ve become addicted to the possibility of something better. Why settle when there’s always someone new waiting in the queue? But does having more choices actually make us happier, or just more indecisive? These options are one of the reasons why people cheat. Yes, i just said it. The options make you indecisive to a point where you dont look at one place, you look at multiple places and select multiple places and keep most of them as options.
Suppose you are in a bakery that has a lot of options of cakes – some being cheap or expensive or maybe good flavour/taste but looks bad or bad flavour/taste but looks good and so on. Indecisive, right? You’ll choose something and then regret it for the entire time you are cutting the cake.
THE WITNESS 1:
Nikhil
“I’ve tried to use Hinge+ a few times with varying degrees of success. I used it a couple of years ago and got about 8 or 9 matches (from hundreds of swipes) about 5 of those entered the conversation stage and about 2 of those were lengthy convos but I ultimately decided we didn’t really have enough in common to bother asking them on a date. I just went back to being single and eventually met a girl in real life (had a year long relationships) followed by another girl I met (6 month dating / seeing each other). After that I went back to Hinge. I used the free version this time and got 2 matches after 5 swipes. I got talking to one of those and she gave me her snapchat. After that I decided that I wanted more than 5 swipes a day so I upgraded to Hinge+. I completely maxed out all my swipes to the point where Hinge said “we’ve shown you everyone, come back later”. I got no matches. I decided to upgrade to HingeX, after reading that they use a paywall to get people to sign up to the highest tier if they want the best matches. Exactly the same thing – been swiping away and absolutely nothing. So after my subscription runs out this month I definitely own’t be paying for the app again – absolute waste of money. I’ll probably continue to use the free version from time to time but I’m already talking to another girl I met at work so I’d rather just meet someone in real life. The problem with Hinge is that everyone sets their standards higher on dating apps than they would in real life. The amount of girls just demanding things in the 3 short prompts they have is unreal “don’t get in touch if you’re not 6ft”. “Make me laugh”, “don’t just message me hey or how are you” – yet they say absolutely nothing of interest on their profile that’s worthy of starting a conversation over.
If someone (no matter their gender) is demanding material things off you before you’ve even shown interest that to me is a red flag. As the swiping goes on the self esteem inevitably goes down – you’ve never even met these people and you start to take their lack of response as a direct estimate of your personal worth which is absolutely ridiculous. Always remember – anyone on a dating app (whether it’s a really hot girl or a guy or whoever) is struggling with meeting people so much they’ve signed up to a dating app. Those hot girls are in exactly the same boat as us average looking guys, so don’t worry too much about it. TL:DR (my take) – Just use the free version of Hinge, the premium tiers aren’t worth it. Better still, you’re more likely to meet someone you actually vibe with doing the thing that you love (whether it’s music, gym, hobbies, gaming, sports etc – whatever you’re into, find someone who’s also into that).”
DO NOT LOOK AWAY
You don’t realize o wanderer, truth is all you need..
Ghosting: The Digital Death Sentence
Hinge has made conversations easier, but it’s also made disappearances effortless. No closure, no explanation—just silence. What does this say about how we value people? Or have we reduced human connections to mere digital exchanges? The emotional stress one goes through after they have been ghosted is close to a death sentence in this digital age. Disappearances are easy to disappear, staying is hard to stay – within you.
THE WITNESS 2 :
Shruti
“To me, hinge can be good at times but there are also times when men there could be very creepy. It almost feels like they just came out of prison looking all so desperate.
Some men there are a disgrace and even women. My guy friend faced the same issue but with a woman so its not about the gender there as this generation we are living in is kinda chill and all but there’s also exception because again, we live in a society but that is for some another time.
So, Use hinge but dont fall for the trap. Do not ignore red flags and do not meet shady people, if you have watched any serial killer documentaries, you know what i am talking about”
Look Away if you think you’re not strong to face yourself. Embrace this world’s reality.
W E L C O M E T O L I V E L E N S
Arresting Digitally
Love in the Age of Algorithms
The app learns your preferences, filters potential matches, and tailors your experience. But can love be algorithmically generated, or is the randomness of life still its greatest matchmaker? But as Nikhil’s opinion about is, i strongly believe that real life is a human’s friend and digital life is human’s foe in upcoming life.
The fact being – technology so powerful that people are connecting to articles more on websites than newspapers/magazines. So, would you prefer being caught up digitally for job and marry digitally or enjoy life and relationships while experiencing the adventures of real life?
Is Modern Romance Just a Glorified Game?
At the end of the day, are we looking for love, or just the dopamine rush of a new match? Hinge, like life, is a game of timing, luck, and effort. Some find their person. Most just keep scrolling.
So, is Hinge truly the future of love, or just a beautifully packaged illusion? Let the future decide.
W E L C O M E T O L I V E L E N S
is this what your future beholds for you?
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